I got very 'empty nest' syndrome. Even though the kids were at home they didn't need me as much. I lost my direction and didn't know what I wanted in life. I was numb. So numb that I used to sometimes joke to friends that life would be great if my lifestyle remained the same but my H went elsewhere for sex. Of course I never said that to him, but due to my inability to show affection he did just that!. However, by the time I found that out I had gone through the numb stage and was in IC, ( actually Cogniive Behavioural Therapy).
Women go through many stages of life, whilst men , whatever is going on at home, go out each day and keep pretty much the same routine. It changes for women. I felt as though my use in the world had gone when the children reached a certain point. Life seemed very bleak. I have to fight that feeling all the time even though I am lucky and my M is now on track and I am thoroughly spoilt - I have everything I could wish for- four healthy intelligent children, my horses, a nice house, good friends etc.....but sometimes something is missing and discontent moves in. I used to blame it on my H and now I have learned it is me and NOT him. It took quite a while to work it out though.
Try using MC to find out what she feels inside- what she sees the future holding? can she see ahead at all?
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
