GIMA- You're right. Our marriage is not a normal happy marriage at this point. Thanks for the reminder.

I am sure it's the frustration talking. The detached feeling comes and goes. The times of sleeping together, hugging and kissing make it very hard for me to maintain it though.

I read the DR book in July. The bomb was Oct 17 '08. Even though we've been going through this for a year I guess I've only ben DBing for 3 or 4 months.

I'm not ready to give up. I decided in the beginning that love was a decision and I've made my decision. I'm just ventiing I guess.

Thanks for making me think.

Focusing on the positives...I got to snuggle and sleep with my W only a week and a half ago. Can't get much more positive than that!

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Me: 35
W: 31
S:9
M: 10 years
Together 13
MySitch - Ups & Downs
She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.