Actually I did not respond. I left her alone. Seems that my only chance of working this out is to give her some time and space to figure herself out first.
Good call.
This is going to take time. LOTS of time. Be patient. Try to see things from her perspective. Be understanding, but not a doormat.
Read as much as you can on these boards. Read the DR book. Develop patience. You'll need lots of patience.
Listen and validate. This is huge.
Don't get baited into arguments. Did I mention patience? Lots of patience?
Thanks for your advice. I have the day off today and I have been reading this board most of the afternoon. It is sort of depressing but helpful at the same time. So many people in similar situations as mine.
I just read on her FB page that her girlfriend is inviting her out for drinks sometime this week. The same friend that she went out with last Thursday night. I am so afraid that her friends are just going to talk her into leaving me. I emailed one of our other mutual friends that she has been hanging out with a lot lately. I asked her for advice on how I can get my wife back (thinking that my W might have told her something that would be helpful for me). She did not respond to my email but she forwarded to my W, then my W emailed me and told me to leave our friends out of this.
If I could only turn back the hands of time and be more of the husband she wanted!
