Amazing how clear this stuff is now that we've lived through it! Wow. I swear, if my W and I manage to reconcile, we are going to be a team to be reckoned with at some sort of marriage crisis retreats.
In a strange twist, the last time my W and I talked, she started by described how one of her friends was so unhappy in her M, and was jokingly saying how she should have an A. Now this is a friend of hers that has been her confidant regarding her situation, her A, her OM, and has just been riveting by the exciting story. My W went off on her, telling her what an awful decision that would be, and how she needs to be honest with her H and make him understand, rather than giving up. She asked her "Do you really want to only see your kids half the time? Do you?!" I sat there with a mix of anger and amazement as my W was telling me this.
I asked what their problems were, and she swore me to secrecy, as these people are my friends as well, and she confided in me about it. As she talked we had reactions in unison, knowing exactly how each move they were making was leading to disaster, and what they so obviously needed to do. To them, those obvious things seemed so hard and distasteful, but they haven't gone through the pain. My W and I both knew that the difficulty of dealing honestly with their problems now pales in comparison with what they face if they fail to fix their M. Was actually quite the little bonding experience for us.
