Actually I did not respond. I left her alone. Seems that my only chance of working this out is to give her some time and space to figure herself out first.
Good call.
This is going to take time. LOTS of time. Be patient. Try to see things from her perspective. Be understanding, but not a doormat.
Read as much as you can on these boards. Read the DR book. Develop patience. You'll need lots of patience.
Listen and validate. This is huge.
Don't get baited into arguments. Did I mention patience? Lots of patience?
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
