Hi Future, I lost your thread for a while! It sounds like a bittersweet convo. But hopefully you got to air a lot of things that you wouldnt have been able to otherwise. Even if you dont end up reconciling, it seems like you are on a road to at least healing some part of your relationship, which I think is important because of the kids. And who knows, given enough time...

Maybe her agreeing that the kids are important in this equation is good. I hope that it means that she wont rush into anything.

I think that anything is forgivable, and you didnt say that you DID forgive her, you said you COULD. Big difference! And if you did chose to forgive her, it would take some doing on her part, like you said, remorse and regret. But still, all you can do is worry about you and your actions. That includes not worrying about her and the OM- even though honestly, we all do a little dance when their A's fail!

Take care future!

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...