Still in the tunnel with hubby

[sandycay]

Hi K

Wow, the cycling is worrisome isn't it? It's like they are begging you to put them out of their misery by you pulling the plug for them on the marriage.

The ironic thing is when my H was out of the house he was still miserable of course it was because of XY and Z,. I wish my H would take prozac or something and I wish he would do C but he won't right now. We di

d it when he first came back but realistically, I don't really need it, Our marriage wouldn't need it, HE needs it. He needs to be all by himself and get C but he won't.

I try to stay busy and active in the evenings so there is not much down time for the silence. I have in the past pulled out backgammon or invited the kidlets in a game or something... that seems to help at times.

I think we both need to stop engaging in conversations regarding R with our H and let then stew about in their own mess. I am not asking my H "what's wrong" anymore. If he wants to tell me he will.... But I think ususally it just goes away and he works out on his own if I am patient enough.

Now.. about that other shoe... you and me both girl!