Thanks Hope. The on again off again stuff is starting to take a toll on me. I'm a bit of an emotional mess, then I'm detached, then trying to be a good understanding husband. She's changing her tune quickly and often too.
It really fry's me when she starts going on about all of the "issues" that have to be at the heart of everything. It's a hot button for me because I am sick of hearing how loving and caring feelings and behaviors are "sick & unhealthy." Wanting to be with someone, doing nice things for your spouse, caring about the feelings of others? These things are all mental disorders according to her. Mind you I'm not talking about taking things to some uber-crazy level of these things, but a level that I feel should be present in a loving dedicated marriage.
It seems that things are starting to progress then we step right back to where we were months ago. She's mentally distant and shut off. She's "protecting" herself. WTF? I've been loving, caring, and understanding and it's still seem as "me against you?"
I just want this crap to be done with. I want to feel like we are on the same side.
The one year anniversary of the bomb being can't be helping either.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
