Well, I tried. I went over to her apartment and we hung out for a while and had dinner. Also walked around the county fair and went out for coffee. She keeps trying to reason w/ me. She says she'll make up for the hurt and that she's hurting really bad right now and please, please, please will I give her another chance. Then she brings up stuff I've done wrong in what appears to be an attempt to minimize her transgressions. So, at least on the surface it appears to still be all about her. She has claimed that there was in fact only one guy now that she had sex with and that she stopped him after he started. She claimed to still have the EA but did not have a PA with him? She said he wouldn't but that she would have. So, I asked her why she led me to believe that it was 4 men and why was she so cruel about the whole thing, etc. Her answer was that she didn't know. So, I don't think I can be with a woman that has that little respect for me that she would go to the extremes she has. She appears to be hurting pretty bad right now and while I don't want to see her in that state I fear I cannot be the one that fixes it for her this time. My wife did make the comment that she wanted custody of her daughter to which I responded, she doesn't want to live with you and you really don't have that option if we get a divorce. She said she will contest the divorce then. So, as I said, it still appears to be all about her.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!