Here is a big 180:

90% of communication is "Non-verbal". Body language is very very important.

Sooo....Listen to the words, but focus more on YOUR body language and observe hers.

Here is an example: When I am listening to a woman, I study her eyes. I smile a lot. I mirror her facial expressions. Nothing is more important than what she is saying. I have an OPEN body position (No arms crossed). If I am experiencing something I PERCEIVE as negative, I pull up a pleasant memory, which changes my facial expressions. I also deepen my voice and slow down the pace.(Calming and sexy)


"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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