This is a tough lesson to learn (I know -- I was (and still am) a lot like you), but you cannot "make" ANYONE happy. They have to make themselves happy.
One thing I have learned is that while I could not have MADE her happy, I could have done so many things to let my W know I loved her. I dropped the ball on that. I think you can at least HELP someone be happy and you have a responsibility to do so for those you love.
I agree with you. I could have done more things that I know would have made her happy. She has spent so much time taking care of me and not getting enough back from me that I think she is wiped out and doesn't think I will change. That makes her think that the marriage may not be worth it to her.
Here is a quote from an email she sent me this morning....
"I don’t have any answers. I am so smothered by you that I can’t even have my own thoughts because you are doing nothing but asking me a million and one questions.I need my space and you are not giving me that AT ALL!!!!"
I have moved into the guest bedroom and bathroom and we are passing each other like strangers in the house. This is so difficult.
