New to this Community seeking advice

[MichelleLT]

If your W re-engages, you will see it in her actions.

Those baby steps will keep building.

If she doesn't, she will consistently withdraw and refile the D papers.

What will talking about it change? Will you really know anything for sure? Or will is cause stress and undermine the positive interactions you have been building on?

If you had just started dating someone would you expect them to talk about where the R was going at this point?

What you are trying to build with your W is a new R. The old one is dead. You are starting from square one. So, if you wouldn't talk about it with a date, don't talk about it with your W, IMHO.