Rob- I think your logic is sound and inspiring. Unfortunately, the premise and motivation behind DB is rooted in how bad divorce is and how it must be avoided at all costs. It is extremely difficult to reverse that conditioning and know whole-heartedly that there's a better life after divorce. Especially for women; MWD's recent article highlighted how much women suffer after divorce. Men on here are constantly spouting "let her see what it is like and she'll come running back." For the men, the challenges are similar depending on the angle one takes. But, it is tough to make the shift from valuing marriage as a critical entity to enthusiastically kissing it goodbye.
Somewhere in everyone that comes here is the "knowledge" that financially, emotionally, statistically, and for the benefit of the kids, staying married is better. Moving out of that paradigm has been a monumental challenge.
And I really got sick of reading here about how hard it is for single moms and "tee-hee, she'll fall on her face and come crawling back"...what does that infer for a LBW? Like moi?
Anyway, I'm not negating your post. I agree with it but it is a struggle to shift philosophically. We all know that delayed gratification is good and necessary sometimes. There are some situations that take years. I think most of your assertions apply no matter what.
