Confronting the OM's W - pros & cons

[AlexEN]

Still no reaction from my W. But she did attempt to contact OM last night while I was out...sent him an IM through her work account.
Nothing else new to report. My W is a brilliant actress.

Perhaps she has not yet confronted him with what she knows as she has to make the same decisions we have all had to with respect to how SHE wants to handle it in her own M... Not clear to me that your W is hiding anything (unless you have recon that tells you that OMW has confronted OM)... FWIW...