It has been a while since I vented and doing so here always makes me feel better so...
My W has purchased a new house and is very excited about it since it will get her out of the apartment she is currently in. I can not blame her for that.
Nothing between us has changed. I have not initiated any serious dicussions about us or the OM in sometime and I continue to be upbeat when she is around. I only see her during the kid exchange or during soccer games but in general we do not talk too much. Mostly just small talk. I typically do not try to initiate any conversation and I never ask her what is going on in her life. Maybe my approach is to drastic but I want her to know that I am moving on and that I refuse to be a victim.
If she does miss me she certainly is not giving any signs of it but I do know she misses the children something terrible when they are with me. Although I am still in crisis mode I do feel better that I no longer have the massive pressure to try to fix things. I still think about her and the OM a lot and I am convinced they are going to be together for a long time. They may not get married but I think it will take a long time for them to figure that out and by the time they do, I will likely be long gone. That is scary for me since I miss the family and want that back. The other scary thing is even if she did decide she wanted to work on us, I am not sure if I could do it given everything she has done.
So in any case, I'm doing my best to GAL, stay strong and be consistant with my approach.
It is impossible to predict what will happen in the future but it is comforting to know things will get better no matter what happens.
