Thanks for your insight. What kind of approach would you suggest that would inhibit his waffling? Just GALing and getting out of here as soon as I can? Stop going to gym with him? Stop cooking/cleaning? Keeping to myself and not letting him talk to me as much?
I tried the stop cooking/cleaning and staying completely separate in my bedroom and using my own separate private entrance months ago. I found that it made me feel worse and I went to a really bad place with it inside. Had nothing to do with him or his reactions to it. It was completely how unnatural and isolating it made me feel. I enjoy cooking for myself and keeping a clean environment, living in an organized manner. When I picked back up on them, I felt a sense of peace, calm, and control for myself and enjoyment. But I know that he receives the benefit of my doing these things as well. He thanks me regularly for the food and for keeping things clean.
I do not call him or text him. So unless he texts me or calls me, which is rare, the only interaction we have is when he is here and we chat in the kitchen and when going to the gym.
Me-34 XH-33 No Kids We were M-12Y T-15Y 5/09 Same house-separate bedrooms 01/10 I filed for D / H moved out 09/16/10 Divorced
