W wants to separate

[LTD]

I'm new here too, but one of the things I read on other posts was that if you don't want to move out - you shouldn't. Basically, if your wife wants the separation, then she should have to do the work to make it happen. I tend to agree with this. Unfortunately, in my situation I couldn't handle it that way. You'll have to make your own call, but it's something to consider.

You are in a place that I have been at before. Let me tell you clearly: it is much better to have the opportunity to interact with your wife and spend quality time with your daughter than it is to be apart. As hard as it may be, stay focused on the changes you want to make and don't forget about them even if things start to improve. When things start to improve, it's easy to go back to your old ways - this really fouls things up. Don't do it. Commit to positive change in the way you approach your M.