I know that I have seen my W try to make me angry. She will throw little jabs out there trying to get me to bite (and in the past, I would have). But I don't.
I know she is thinking this means I have "moved on".
I did break the DB rules when I replied to her email about having a girlfriend (not true, no desire to even think of that). I told her that I was doing fine, but that there was no one else and there never was anyone else and there won't be someone else for a very long time.
I left it at that. I didn't beg, ask her to come back, tell her I love her, etc.. Just that I am okay, but basically remain married and will act as though I am married.
I think every situation is differnt. I feel badly for you...maybe your wife is just throwing jabs at you...trying to get you to act.
My counselor told me that far to many men get tired of waiting and actually file for divorce before their wife just to get it going. He said many of these men don't want a divorce, but they grow impatient. I'm not going to do that; but limbo really sucks.
I agree, I've told many of my close friends that reconsilliation or not, my W will HAVE to file for divorce, just to know that she can. I don't expect she won't file. I expect she will.
If I expect her to, it won't make it any easier when I sign that paper saying I agree to divorce her, but it will be easier than if I am expecting that not to happen. If it doesn't happen and I am expecting it, well, that is a good thing.
Hang in there, it is good to know that there is a support network here to lean on with people that have similar problems.
