One of the strangest Parts of MLC is the train of thoughts that will come to you from the MLCer.
They will go back in time, bring things up, things that you either thought they didn’t notice, or that are weeks, months, or even years old. And you will be just floored.
They will also do these strange things, like mowing the grass in the rain, because the circuit that makes things logical is short circuiting.
Not one of us here can explain the nice texts versus the nasty ones, other than, it was the mood she was in at the time.
None of us can explain all of the goofy behavior, except that it is part of MLC.
It is up to you to not let it make you spin.
I still feel there is a lot of anger with you. You understand MLC a bit, and that is a good first step.
You are angry with it though. You are angry with your wife for going through this. You are angry with yourself because you can’t stop it.
All very normal feelings, but I feel like you are not answering texts, or choosing which ones to answer, not really based on what we have told you, but still to prove something to her.
Right now it feels like you are trying to prove to her that she has not gotten to you. She has. This has. It is normal.
I feel like you are still hoping that you will see her start to see you in a different light NOW. It doesn’t happen that quickly. It took my H a year to even notice that I had lost 40 pounds. Never mind the internal stuff.
It is ok to observe and wonder a bit. But right now, it is up to you to keep your head above water and not let each and everything she says or does sink you into the pit of analyzing it from every direction. As you can slow that down, I think you will find yourself responding to her from a bit of a different place.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
