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[awest1217]

I completely agree, but at the same time, I want to be able to say I tried everything. I know in DR there is a section on spouses who do not want to leave there OP. I am trying to detach and see if my love and prayers for God's help will work. Patience is the hard part for me. H was really nice yesterday and didn't even call OW which is the first time since he has been home. I noticed and even said thank you for that because he heard what I said on Monday during the yelling and took at least some of it to heart. Right now I am not feeling well, maybe it is the flu, but I think it is a cold and the fact that I have not really slept in a few days. I have never been one to do well on little sleep. Either way I want to make sure I applaud H when he does things right and support him and show him love. I told my brother last night that i have my own time line of progress and I am not saying specific things but there has to be large progess by certain dates. I am watching for baby steps and really trying to better to show love because love endures all and I believe love can heal all, if it is allowed to, but that is the key. H has to allow my love to heal the wounds and let his love reblossom.

Maybe I am being nieve or too optimistic, but I have to try or else I will regret it forever.