ARGH. I selfishly took a night off from calling Ds. I've done it religiously for every night the last month. I wanted a NC, no drama night to just FEEL. I texted W this afternoon to tell her I was busy tonight and "might not" call at 9.

9:20 W calls and I don't pick up but she leaves a VM which says something about an issue w/ the girls that she needs my help on.

I can't have 1 night w/out the threat of drama? I haven't replied and assume if it's an emergency she'll assume I'm busy and text. I feel like this is a test and I don't know what to do...

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)