What do I do? Do you ever get over the feelings when you see them? Should you not want to get along and want to be together for the R purposes and D best interest?
At first, I was over at my old house a lot, thinking it was in the best interest of the girls to still have us together as a family.
W said on a couple of occasions it was if I never left -- and not in a nice way.
Now, I've got it worked out that I never have to see W. I pick up the kids from the house from the after school sitter before W gets home. In the morning, we live so close, they can get on their same bus routes just from different stops.
So I only have to deal with W by phone and I try to mostly do it by text. When we talk and especially when I see her it brings back a flood of emotions so I'm trying to see her as little as possible.
I guess this is a 180. I was finding reasons to see her this summer and now I'm only dealing with her when I have to. This seems counterintuitive to rebuilding the relationship, but time after time on this board they preach that you have to move on emotionally and let them miss you -- if they are going to. This is the best way for me.
Of course, I'm in a good situation relatively speaking. Because of my W's job, I see my girls every day after school for an hour. I get them one week night every week -- and she's asked me to take them additional nights to catch up on work -- and every other weekend.
On those weekends, I pick them up on Friday and put them on the bus on Monday. Three nights and two full days.
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