Not wanting to be on this boat........

[ClingingToHope]

Whatever you do, try to keep her going. The fact she feels the counselor was "taking your side" leads me to believe she is feeling guilty about the situation.

I went to one MC session with my W, thought it went well. The MC then wanted to see us separately. In my session, I laid out all of the different stresses in my W's life and that I was trying to help her lessen those, but it didn't seem to help and actually was making things worse. I didn't know what to try next.

W went to her one-on-one and said she told the counselor her only goal was to convince me that the M was over. So I said "what are we wasting our money for" in anger and we never went back.

Looking back, I should have seen the program through. Perhaps there would have been a breakthrough. I'll never know now.

Just keep going and don't get angry or defensive. Let her have her say and let her anger play itself out.