The hardest thing, no caring...

[LTD]

Brknheart...I feel a lot like you in the not knowing if its a PA or just an EA. The fact of the matter is, it doesn't matter. Either way it's a betrayal. The question is how do you handle that betrayal.

I decided that even if it was the worst case, I am still open to reconciliation because I believe that it's best for the family and the vows we took (i.e. in good times and in bad...til death do us part) mean something to me, even if they don't mean much to her right now.

I thought about a PI, but what difference does it make? IMO, either you love her unconditionally and would be willing to forgive her for just about anything, or you don't. The one difference in the situations is that from your signature, you don't appear to have kids. Believe it or not, the hardest thing for me to forgive her for right now is the fact that the way she went about doing this, my kids don't have me to be a dad to them.

It is hard to understand someone giving up after all that time together. I do know that from talking to people who have been divorced for a long time that when the other person gets around to being honest with themselves they seem to have regrets...the problem is that it can take a long time for them to realize what they've done.