My plan, before coming on here was to send a letter to her work Personnel Manager, his Personnel Manager, their Union managers (as they are both Unions reps) and to also send a letter to EVERY business in my town (it's a small town) outlining what he has done and that he is not to be trusted. He will be looking for a job here so the more difficult i can make it the more likely he is to go back to where he came from.
And do you feel that this would be from a man who was showing strength and honor? Just what do you think these people in these businesses will do? Do you think that they are going to take you seriously? They will see you as a LBH who has turned into a jerk! Most businesses don't care what people do in their personal lives, but even if your W and OM lost their chances at a job, would it make "you" a better person? It will have little effect on your W and her lover.
You are wound up too tight and you need to at least read the DR book before you set out to see how much hell you can make for somebody else. It is one thing to bust an affair, but it is quite another to see how much revenge you can take out on the person who has hurt you. I don't think anyone meant to leave you with the impression that DR is doing that.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
