As a further plan to that I intended to tell EVERYBODY I can about the A as nobody believes she is capable of it.
Oh my God! NO!!!! Don't tell everyone! There was a man here on the board that did that to his W who was in an EA and she left him. Settle down and don't you do a darn thing until you learn a few things!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
