Hello Kittyfish & Sandi2!

[BigJohn]

If you are holding up more of the dirty work - what can you start refusing to do so that your W will HAVE to pick up the slack? I wouldn't even say a word. Just see if she has the maturity to do it. Of course with babies you can't let stuff go, but...It's a way to force her hand into doing more work around the house.

Hope,

I have cut back on some of the things I've kept on top with in the past but doing so has produced mixed results. For example, I can only let the laundry go so long before it needs to get done. Sometimes my W will be proactive and start the weekly laundry and sometimes she won't. At this point I'm just picking and choosing my battles as my W and I seem to exist on two different planes of reality. Frankly I'm beyond playing games with my W at this point, I just want her the hell out of the house so I can gain better control over the situation. Wish I could be more chipper about things but as I mentioned in a previous post somewhere I am really starting to see the "big picture" with my W and I've had it with being used and abused. This is the clarity that comes with detachment.

Thank for the feedback Hope. As always, I appreciate your concern and interest in my sitch.