Not wanting to be on this boat........

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So, we got back from our first counseling session today. I have to say the more that I read on here the "Alian" term seems very appropriate to describe these spouses. She tells me on Sunday she wants to go to a counselor, than Sunday night it is only for the baby?? Than lets me know today that we have an appointment available this afternoon if we want it with a pro-marriage counselor that I asked her to look into and she did. (thinking this is great dummy so far right!??)

Well....the session went well I think (this is my first ever time going to any type of therapy or counseling for anything) At the end the counselor asks us what our goals are. I say that I want to get back to developing a great relationship with my wife, raise a family, etc... She says that she wants to make sure we give it our all again only for the kid. The counselor says "OK, I understand that that is all that you can give right now, but for this to work at all you need to decide to be 2 feet in or 2 feet out, and than we can go from there....Wife says I am in (again everyone says this is great right.....?)

We get in the car to pick up son at daycare and ask her if she wants to get dinner. She says that is fine and than asks me what I thought. I said to her "I dont know I think it went fine but honestly have no expectations b/c I have never been to a therapist before and we were only there for an hour" She than gets very upset and says "Well I dont like her, and I know you do b/c she is taking your side on this!!!" I am perplexed and tell wife I dont think that is the case as we really just laid out or problems with no solutions or suggestions coming until the end when therapist asked for each of our commitments either in or out.

The rest of the night was tense and than she went to bed at 8:00 saying she was feeling well??? What does anyone make of this? It feels to me much like I said earlier that this is a big game, the problem is I am still unsure if I want/can handle the roller coaster that everyone refers to. I never really understood that until I started lurking here a couple of weeks ago, I dont even like roller coasters in real life!

Looking for some insight from those that have been thru this what do you guys/gals think about this?