I feel now like our new closeness from Retro is leading to me leaning on her for comfort, reassurance, whatever. And it's hollow, it just makes me feel worse. It would be great if she'd come out wanting to work on the M - but, what she said is that she wants to enjoy the time with me that we have left.
I can see why you would want to try to keep your closeness, but with one of you intent on divorcing, how close can that be? And it seems like this new closeness is enjoyable for your W, but is not good for you. You probably already know what I think: you need to detach and go dim, but I wouldn't bother at this point unless you are really make a serious commitment to that. And I'm guessing you aren't....
