I've been separated for 4 months now. It doesn't get easier, but it does get less overwhelming. My wife is also very prone to holding grudges (she once didn't talk to her mom for a year of our marriage). In some small way I take comfort in that...she snapped out of that, maybe she'll snap out of this too. Maybe your wife is similar.
Either way, the best thing to do is focus on self-improvement. Are you the person you imagined yourself being? If not, why not? What do you need to do to make it happen? Once you know, take action.
Yea, she holds grudges alright. I dont have a year to wait though, 4.5 more months and she can get a divorce.
Regarding W with OM, unless you have proof, your W is not seeing OM. It will eat you up inside if you start dwelling on it, when nothing could be going on. My W keeps asking me why we cant be friends after the divorce, is she had OM, why in the hell would I want to be friends with her?
Sitch: http://snipurl.com/u4zrz
M-11y
D talk-7/28/09 W Moved out-9/01/09 W wants D-9/22/09 W doesnt want D-12/1/09 W Moved in/I Moved out-12/21/09 W wants D-1/19/10 D Final-04/15/10
