It was like having a veil lifted from your eyes when you realize how you should be interacting and supporting your wife .
Tonight I gave the same interactions with my WAW - we were conversing for 45 mins with me doing the usual 'I can understand.... or It must be hard.....I can see.....'. But tonight it was different. There were no emotive topics that she brought up. So there wasn't the same connection between us, but she seemed to enjoy talking more and had a lighter mood. She never seemed to want to stop talking - she must have told me the same things at least 3 times.
This is only day 2 of this 'unveiling'. So lets keep focusing upon the small things that I can change.
She made arrangements to babysit her first Grandchild for this Boxing day - she said to her daughter that she would babysit no matter where she was staying on Boxing day.
This hurt a little, in the way she may be making plans around not being at home. But I know where me and the boys will be - this is one thing I can influence.
But lets keep looking for and focusing on the baby steps - and not look too hard into them.
I agree with the list of positive changes that you gave. They pretty much encompass what I discovered during my 'unveiling'
Thank you for the focus you gave with my children. You seem to have said what I was trying to say - but I floundered to put it so clearly.
I especially like the 'Love n Logic' guidance. So simple.
Thanking you for you time and thoughts. The only way I can reward you is to describe any improvements that may occur in myself or my relationship with my WAW, and kids.
Regards, Gyn.
Cause all of the stars, Have faded away, Just try not to worry, You'll see them someday. Take what you need, And be on your way and, Stop crying your heart out.
