Hi RedHeadWife... (it's me, "kel" in '06/'07--[later D.D.]-- had to change names after googling my username for a silly *tagging game* on another site that I used the same handle on --and being directed to my posts here. Duh.)
I hope you have the time of your life on that cruise! What a chance to just let go and laugh. Ooh, lucky girl! I got shrimp boots (well, actually, really amazing-cute-and-colorful festival boots) for my anniversary present! :P
You wrote:"Not sure what my problem is . . . whether it's the meds I'm on, just not interested, or a combination of a bunch of things. I just try not to have long periods of time go by when we don't like it used to be."
You know what you have to do. You have to find out. For the sake of your M, and YOU.
Sometimes a cycle starts in the crazy day-to-day living. You know, the "happily ever after" part that usually starts at the END of the story when the marriage just begins. Anyhow, we can stop believing we're sexy. Stop wanting sex---> more of the same.
If your sex drive doesn't change without the stress of kids & etc., I beg you to search for those answers asap. I don't want to freak you out, but guys are simple creatures. Most who cheat don't do so because of how they feel about US, but how we (or OW) make them feel about themselves. This sounds soooo antiquated, but if text-girl has the hots for H and is stroking his ego, and you have no interest in his, um, ego, things could go bad pretty quickly. Not that it should. Not that it's any wife's fault if men fall for text girls instead of "working on problems"-- but... just sayin'.
Mainly do this for you... your meds may be stopping you from enjoying an amazing part of life
