Is this the end of my marriage?

[P17]

I'd like to know that too.

My plan, before coming on here was to send a letter to her work Personnel Manager, his Personnel Manager, their Union managers (as they are both Unions reps) and to also send a letter to EVERY business in my town (it's a small town) outlining what he has done and that he is not to be trusted. He will be looking for a job here so the more difficult i can make it the more likely he is to go back to where he came from.

As a further plan to that I intended to tell EVERYBODY I can about the A as nobody believes she is capable of it. I want to also hack her Bebo Page and Facebook page with the information of what she is doing. She continues to wear rings on her wedding fingers (not her wedding rings it turns out) so that 'people won't talk'. This is a small town, words gets around really fast. How she thinks she can keep it quiet when he's moved in is beyond my comprehension.

Puppy is any of this what you had in mind? I thought this would drive the WAS away further?

Puppy, what do you mean by "establish (and enforce) some strong boundaries" - examples?

I was planning on being her friend but I think that is more her way of letting me go more gently as she does nothing for that a friend would. I want to stay civil and have some fun when my D is with us, after that there is NC.