Is this the end of my marriage?

[Arwen_in_NJ]

That's one way to go. I'd also like to see you more aggressively do some things to bust up their affair more quickly, and would also throw in "establish (and enforce) some strong boundaries" to that, but yeah, that's one approach. Puppy

PDT-
What sort of things do you recommend to "aggressively" do to bust up the affair more quickly, that won't drive the WAS further away & faster?

Inquiring minds wanna know... ;-)