Yeah, these thoughts have already passed through my head. Although the apartment complex xW is in was originally my first choice two years ago when I moved out (they had no vacancies at the time), and even though I have since been envious of xW claiming those apartments before I could last year prior to selling our house (they're the closest apartments to S8's elementary school), I would have to really think hard about whether I really would even want to live there now.
Like you said, I would hate seeing the OM's car over there constantly. I don't know what I would do if I had more opportunities to run into that fraktard. On the other hand, I suppose if I was in one of the buildings furthest away that would greatly minimize that from happening.
The main thing is that I am certain she would use the closer proximity to her own selfish advantage -- dumping the boys off on me at any and every opportunity, just like she does with her mother now (who has her own place there now too). But then she used to do that all the time before her mother returned to town anyway -- and I don't really mind seeing my S's. It might be nice knowing that the boys could easily walk over to their dad's place any time they felt they needed to. Of course that might begin to present a problem if/when I start dating again. I'd like for my own privacy to be respected too, especially now that the M is dead and gone, buried in the dirt of the big D.
Something to think about. Right now I am tending to think it might be more trouble than any advantage it might offer. Still, it bears a little thought.
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I go to the Parenting Coordinator (PC) tomorrow for my first one-on-one, just an introduction, I guess, to let us tell our stories to him and set the groundwork. Since xW was "blessed" with being able to visit with him last week, i.e, first, I am wondering what she's already said to try to poison the PC against me.
Oh, well, just need to worry about just those things I can control, nothing else.
