The hardest thing, no caring...

[LTD]

Yes, I noticed immediately after we separated that my wife was suddenly Facebook friends with some of the guys from her past. I had gotten angry because I found a collection of pictures of the two of them she had saved. She also had a book of poetry he had given her. She swore up and down that it didn't mean anything to her. Then I see where she wrote him and said she was crying as she read the book and remembering his kind heart. Talk about a kick in junk...not only was she writing this guy right after we separated, but she had lied about it. Then I see that she's talking to a guy in the same apartment complex for a couple of hours a night. All this after swearing up and down that she didn't want anything to do with other me. When someone gets to that point, unfortunately you can't trust them.

IMHO all you can do is love them and hope they snap out of it while you focus on yourself and your kids (if you have any).