Undrdg - exactly. It's very confusing.

Originally, one of H's big complaints was that I was always gone - doing theatre at night and on weekends. H wanted me to stop and be home. I've done that. Last week he blew up at me saying he needed more space. I think I went from never being available to always being available. So I'm trying to find a balance. I also think that S needs to have family time, but of course without tension.

I was gone all weekend - literally - to give H space with FIL and S. Coming today is the first time I've spent time iwth family in a week or so.

I don't want to pressure H, but I also want to show I'm not abandoning the family, as H felt I did in the past. Sigh.


Me: 42
Him: 43

Two divorcees in a relationship