Interestingly enough, that is what my H told me when he finally said we were over a few weeks ago. That he tried to find the 'spark' but it wasn't there and I deserved to find someone whose face lit up when they saw me...
I don't have any answers for you, but I will be thinking of you! If I knew how to make 'it' come back, I wouldn't still be here...sorry.
It is a tough situation to be in. I think the butterfly feeling comes and goes in a relationship, that is just the nature of the beast. Someone once said the key to a long relationship is that you don't both fall 'out of love' at the same time. I guess that assumes you both will do so along the way from time to time?
OK I am not helping so I will jump off, but I am thinking of you and I am bummed for you, I have been rooting for you both.
You are helping ... I know you are hurting too.... it sucks, but the question is how to act now....
The end of the conversation went like this (it was about 8:pm)
H: okay....pppffffft I have rewinded the clock and we are back to 6pm and this conversation never happened, you want to go get ice cream with D?
M: uuuumm what?
H: I just don't want this conversation to have happened so let's back up and forget it.
M: uummm what?
H: Come on let's go get ice cream
M: (to myself)WTF and spank me now because IDK WTF just happened. I am sure I can forget the fact that you don't love me "like that" anymore and oh what's that you want to put in my va ja ja later or my mouth?.... I live to serve! Because like you said, there's never been a problem there.... Think I am being used.... do I let it continue or should I stop because obviously the emotional connection that goes with that is not there with him but is with me.
YIKES.. so many things to ponder.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
