This is all confusing me again. The touches that she allows, the sexual thrusting / brushing that I did last week (both of which my IC said were ME testing HER which was a nice twist on it) the support for my dancing class that she gave me (she thought it was great I was going), the noticing that I can now get into my suit trousers (as I've lost 30 pounds since we split and I had no idea she even knew what my suit trousers look like), she noticed I had new trainers and 'nice' new boots and the great time we have when we spend time together with my daughter (and it seems very natural and not in the slightest forced good time). That all says to me she is watching me, checking me out, looking me up and down and she is noticing these things. She also told me that a work colleague hasn't seen me at the gym in a while ... more checking me out, seeing if I have changed. I suppose these are at least tiny little good signs? If she didn't care, why would she even mention it?
Then she ignores me and doesn't text for a week at a time.
Is this s**t normal? Is this just more of the testing? She gives with one hand (nice boots), she enjoys the attention (she let's me touch her without pulling away as I would if the circumstances were reversed as it's inappropriate for me to be sexually pushing myself against her a$$ when she is involved in a relationship with somebody else) and then takes away with the other hand (ignores me) ...
Have to say I wept a little earlier. Haven't done that in a long time now. The fact I got no response from her just made me think she really couldn't care less anymore. Then I think of the above. Then I think I'm confused. Then I think I'm reading far too much into this. Then I get annoyed, p***ed off and start to get back to normal again.
. . . ARRGGHH ....
P17, you're reading WAYYYYY to much into EVERYTHING.
Relax.
It could be nothing more than the fact that waywards tend to get horny (sorry, but that's true), kwim? Or she could be cruelly teasing you.
Women will know when you date -- trust me. My wife just "did the math" basically when I:
- told her I "had plans Thursday evening";
- said "no" when she said "Oh, going to happy hour with (the usual group of guys I go with);
- said (name of pub, a good 30 minutes from our house and NOT a regular haunt of mine) when D20 asked me (and I figure her mother put her up to it, lol);
- colored my hair;
- didn't wear my wedding ring;
- suddenly changed my mind about NOT wanting us to date other people while we were separated, something that SHE had INSISTED upon up until that point!
I wasn't 50 minutes into having drinks with this woman when my wife started texting me, and then phoned me in tears. We've been on an upward arc ever since.
