Is this the end of my marriage?

[P17]

P17-
From your timeline, it looks like you've been in this for a little over 2 months. I believe I read somewhere that statistically most affairs end around 6 months. If you really want to divorce bust, be prepared to have a lot of patience!

I have been here for just over 2 months.

Your W may be in the middle of feeling the effects of a chemical "high" that might make her actions & reactions pretty irrational at times. Progress in these situations seems to come in slow, tiny steps- and there seem to be almost as many steps backward as forward.

The chemical high I can only assume is there just now. How she can pick the guy who is the total opposite of everything she actually finds attractive (thats not my POV but it is hers) can only be attributed to that high.

I have been at this 8 months now. I have decided that I am prepared to "stand" a whole lot longer, in spite of the well-meaning friends and family telling me that my W moving out this week will help me "get over it" and "move on". You will need to go with your heart as well.
Good luck to you.

The issue I have in my head is that she told me, quite straight faced, that there is no future for us, spends the day with me. But then, less than a week later her boyfriend moves in. I have the patience to wait, like you I have a lot of well meaning friends and family who tell me to divorce the b***h (their words). But my head tells me to protect myself legally and then just wait it out. Once I have the legal protection there is no immediate rush to do anything. I then have 2 years to DB before a divorce can be applied for.

Thanks for your response! I think maybe I need to just take this 1 week at a time as opposed to one day at a time. It will be weeks and months, not hours and days before it can even start to be resolved.