My Intro: Thanks for Reading!

[billclay18]

I felt from the moment I joined this site that we offering each other some slight hope for reconciliation as bait to come into the detachment process which inevitably leads to health and happiness and of course divorce!

I don't mean to be a spoil sport but is DBing an oxymoron?

If detachment leads to health and happiness, that's a good thing...better than being unhealthy, unhappy and divorced or unhealthy, unhappy and married.

IMO, it's up to our spouses whether we get divorced. We can certainly make matters worse by begging, pleading, arguing, etc., but when it comes right down to it, if that's what they want no amount of changes on our part will matter. The changes are for us, our lives and our next R's. Sometimes I'm not sure changes are necessary, maybe we're just fine the way we are...just not right for our spouses...and that's OK.