This has been such a helpful thread for me! Perfect timing. I have been struggling with what it means to detach, and for months have vascillated between the "desperately trying to win back" and "angry, fight for my rights in this situation" positions. Lately, I finally feel like I am getting to the detached position but it was defintitely going in the "I don't give a sh*t" direction and I knew that wasn't right. But, I didn't know how else to do it and I just can't hurt any more! I did not realize how much my self worth and identity had been tied to this marriage and I think I can finally work on letting go of that. But it has been so hard! I am going to re-read these posts a few times and let it sink in. Thanks Coach et. al....
