Trying to save my M. W not really trying though.

[Hope4us]

Holy crap! Just checking our bank accounts & it looks like W opened up a new checking acct & there a nice chunk of $$$ about to be deposited into it...must be the piece of her retirement she cashed in.
This feels all too real right now. The amount is much more than I expected & it's hard to see W changing her mind after doing this.
I'm feeling very anxious right now.

Don't panic. Even if she moves out, it's not the end of the world. This may be what she thinks she wants now, but things change once the reality of it hits them. She probably thinks life will be great, she can see OM all she wants without you interferring, but once she's made this sacrifice for OM, there will be a ton of pressure on him and there's no way he'll measure up to that expectation. And that's when the A falls apart. Especially if he cuts and runs now that you've told his W what's going on.

Listen E, I know how tough it is. I really do. But you need to let go of worrying about what she's going to do. You can't control what she's going to do, so why worry?

And this money doesn't mean she will move out. She could, but again, she might not. A year and a half ago, my W had gone to see a lawyer, was dead set on D, planned to only stay in the house until our son graduated from H.S. this spring, wouldn't let me touch her, slept on the couch, told me she didn't want me anywhere near her office or in our house for that matter and was saving money for her exit.

How are we now that the A has been over for a year and a half? We are doing fine. Still lots to work through, but we talk about our future, she tells me she loves me on a daily basis, she's told me she was sorry for what she did and she didn't know what the F she was thinking, she's back to her normal self.

I get what you're going through, and I know how hard it is, but try to GAL and not think about it every day. Just don't do anything to make the situation worse because right now, nothing you can do will make it better, but there's a lot that could make it worse.

KWIM?