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[ClingingToHope]

I'll have to reread DR, but I believe one of the things in it is that there has to be just two in the marriage. He has to cut off OW or get out. It seems like he's trying to have the best of both worlds -- a home life and family and the ability to run around and date and do what he wants.

At some point you have to set down boundaries and if he wants to keep the marriage, then he has to end things with OW. I mean really, you couldn't have cut his hair?

I don't know where DR says to save a marriage you have to live like you are.