H just called after finding out I was in the ER (sinus infection)...He wasn't happy I didn't call him however I said to him, you chose to walk, you wanted space so why in the world would I bother you for that?
Come to find out he was in the ER last week - Thought he was having a heart-attack...
Once he told me that I went off on him (I know I know)...Asked him how the hell was I supposed to know if something happened to him, how would I explain that to the boys?
Let him know in no uncertain terms that the fat troll had NO business by his side if he was ill, that is my place (he said she wasn't there)...
He had very high blood pressure and super high cholesterol... The ER thought he may have had a stroke...
All that and he still didn't find it in his heart to let me know until a week later!
He did promise if it happened again he would call me on the way...
However I am just pissed as all get out...
It is my job to care for him not hers damnit why can't he see that?
And why in the hell did I go off when I have been doing so very good?
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
It is my job to care for him not hers damnit why can't he see that?
No, Serenity, right now it ISN'T your job. Whether it hurts like hell or not (and I know it does), he's told you by his recent actions and decisions that this most certainly is NOT your job right now.
You can't rescue him.
You can't control him.
You can't "fix" him.
This is HIS journey, and he needs to walk it, unenabled by you, naturally, but left to walk it nonetheless.
Then I wouldn't answer today...he took his time figuring out what he wanted so take your time if you need it.
Can't remember, have you consulted an attorney? Do you have your 'ducks in a row'? When my H sent me the "I'm sorry, but I can't try again" email, I had my terms written up in a matter of 3 or 4 days (money, kids, household stuff, etc etc)for him to review.
It hurts, though, I know. I bawled with my face down in the carpet b/c it hurt so much. But then I got up and started working on my terms...Take care
I'll let others respond to how to answer the text. In the bigger picture, let him answer that question. That is, if he is done then let him initiate the process.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
I am done so we are done, what do you need me to do now?
Do I answer this?
S13,
I'm sorry this hurts you.
I wouldn't respond at all for about 12-24 hours. Then I'd respond with "I don't need anything from you; I'm actually doing pretty well. Guess it's up to the Ls now. - Serenity"
