Do the differing opinions here or with your family and friends cause you much confusion?
Katie provides a very balanced view of things. I however dont believe your H has the honor and will to rebuild a strong relationship from scratch. I would love to be wrong on this.
You have nothing to fear but fear itself. ® (FDR)
Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering. ® (Yoda)