The way the kids act up around my WAW is part of the reason why she walked. To everyone else they are very polite and well mannered, to me they know the boundaries and their limits, but to my WAW it just opens her nerves - she just seems to have never set the limits for them. This is a typical setup in how moms & dads interact with the kids - good cop & bad cop. Is there anything I could say to them to get them to act better to my WAW when I am not around? If I say something it will only be unfair pressure on them as they will then think that If they don't act nicer, mom will not come home. And this would be very cruel to them - they would think it is all their fault, and I can't do that to them. Is there any way to interact with the boys and not have them telling my WAW such cruel things? Could these cruel things make her think about the damage she is causing?
How hard was it to change YOUR behavior? How hard do you think it is going to be to change SOMEONE ELSE'S behavior?
OWN your relationship with your kids. Let W own her relationship with her kids.
If W ASKS for your input, give her choices (love and logic) or "Let me think about that."
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
