Well, there in lies the problem in my opinion. I need those old wounds. They remind me of who I bacame, what I've endured, who not not to become and most importantly, how what I do effects my kids.
I don't think you can ever lose those experiences and how they affect you today. I mean, I know the hardest, toughest things in my life have made me who I am and generally a stronger person. But it's also good not to shut stuff inside and not deal with it. I tend to be a stuffer by nature, so instead of getting angry or whatever emotion I should be expressing, I just stuff it inside and get migraines. In 2007, when I was going through X's EA/PA I was having them basically every day at that point!!! Now it's prob. about once a month...
When I first started going to therapy about 18 months ago, I would go in and cry the whole time. Then I just cried less and less every time, until I had pretty much expressed a lot of the sadness and anger I had bottled up inside really for most of my life. I think maybe I had to do that to get to the point where I now feel a lot healthier and happier...
