Still in the tunnel with hubby

[kjensen]

Hi Sandycay,

I think the piecing is hard and although I think my H is trying some, he's still "in the tunnel" so-to-speak. So-I'm not sure I'm really ready for the piecing forum yet.

My H isn't sure of anything right now, this morning he said "I've got to get off all these pills(meaning prozac). I don't know who I am or what I feel anymore.." I'm worried he actually will stop his antidepressant prematurely as I know he still in a depression. I think what he's expressing is what alot of MLCers feel(without medication!).

Last night H did ask if I wanted to take the quiz in the 5 Languages of Love book, so we did. We both need words of affirmation...I feel like that's all I do with H, but obviously he isn't feeling it...

Its hard watching our spouses in pain, not knowing how to get themselves in a better place. As much as we'd like to help/guide/suggest, we can't. I think for people like myself, people who "mother" or are caregivers..it's especially hard to let go and watch them fail/falter until they 'get it right'...I think that's one of my life lessons from all of this. I'm doing the same thing with my girls...