It seems to be working.... sometimes #2

[sandycay]

Well my friends... seems I need to move out of Piecing and in to limbo land. Not sure were to start posting now.

H has been truthful lately about letting me know he doesn't Love me that way anymore and in fact he now thinks he didn't for quite some time and that led to the affair. He thinks it's unfair to me for him to string me along and that I deserve better. He is scared to move out because telling his kids and me that before was the hardest and scariest thing he has ever done and his over whelming sense of duty has kept in here this long. He says he has tried over the last year and half to "ramp" it up ..ie. trying to find a way to love me like that via trips, special things and such (and he has) but at the end of the day even though we had fun he still can't feel that for me anymore.

This is all said over the last two-three weeks and never in emotional outburst. I can tell he is hurting over this lack of feeling and I think if he could change it he would. As of right now there are no plans for him leaving but it has been talked about seriously as of last night. Solutions, goals and such. He did say last night that this time would be different and that he wouldn't want to stiff arm the kids as he did last time.

To that I replied but don't you see that you will be taking my time away from them ... I will be losing them too! He said our family will fly away like dust because we live where there is no family and our kids will soon be off in the world with no real place to call home. This bothers him. He asked if I would leave the state with them and I told him no... maybe I should have said yes!

So.. what do I do now? I guess I need to move to another thread... any suggestions? No, he won't go to counseling he already knows all the answers and questions.

Blessings to you